19th August 2022 


Tel: 023 80836921
Mob: 075 0092 8478

Welcome to the Wise Owl Counselling, Coaching and Psychotherapy Website

My name is Lavinia Newman, and my counselling rooms are in Oxford St, Central Southampton, (click here for a map) and Fletchwood Lane, Ashurst Bridge, Totton (click here for a map).

I also undertake telephone counselling if you wish to remain anonymous

My qualifications: FdA Couns BSc(Hons) MCIArb Mediation FCCA FCMA NLP Practitioner & Coach MBACP

Lavinia is truly a Wise Owl! She made me feel that I was not alone with my problems and that she understood and cared what happened to me. I now feel more confident. We have worked through so many problems and I feel that my attitude, behaviours, self esteem and my ability to cope has improved beyond what I could have ever imaged. I am truly indebted to her, as meeting her has changed my life.”
AR Fairoak

Life’s Challenges

Life can be a struggle and sometimes and when things are not quite right or we feel overwhelmed, we may not want to talk to those nearest to us and sometimes there is no-one we feel we can talk to.

When this happens, a healthy response to these difficulties or to distress is to seek help from a professionally qualified counsellor.

I work with many issues including:-
  • Relationship problems
  • Managing family dynamics; Mother & daughter and Father & son
  • Sexuality
  • Getting over or going through divorce
  • Childhood issues including abuse
  • Low self-esteem
  • Dieting and weight problems
  • Depression
  • Suicidal Thoughts
  • Anxiety
  • Anger Eating Disorders
  • Life or work coaching
  • Lack of direction
  • Performance issues: Feeling I can’t...
  • Work and workplace problems
  • Unwanted behaviours, phobias
  • Bereavement & loss
  • Resolving disputes of any kind

I can provide counselling in a safe confidential and private environment so that you can feel secure to engage openly and honestly in confidence to achieve the changes you want. It may be you just want to feel better than you currently do.

I’d like to help you by providing a therapeutic, caring and empathic, non-judgmental space in which you can reflect on what matters to you by reviewing your feelings, experiences, your current belief system and behaviours in a private and confidential place.

Performance improvement

  • You may want to improve our performance in specific areas to realise your true potential, in your life, or in the workplace, or in business.
  • You may feel that you can’t do something you would like to do because you just don’t believe that you able to achieve success.
  • You may not know exactly what direction you want to take but feel dissatisfied with your current performance.
  • You may know what you want but just can’t see how to get there.

    Coaching is about a forming a working alliance with me to help define realistic and meaningful specific goals and then to help you to release your true potential which is far greater than you might imagine.

    My purpose is in assisting you to remove the obstacles that impede you from achieving success.

    Click here to see FAQ: Counselling or Coaching; Do I need CBT or What?

    About Me

    I am a qualified Integrative Counsellor and Psychotherapist using a Relational model (Petruska Clarkson) and I am a qualified NLP (Neuro-lingustic Programming) Counsellor and Coach. An Integrative model means that I am trained in using an array of theoretical schools of thought, research and experience in order to meet your specific needs by tailoring my approach to your requirements. This includes using Transactional Analysis, CBT, Psychodynamic, Brief & Solutioned Focused Therapy, Mindfulness and Psychosynthesis approaches and others, where these will assist you. I use a collaborative approach where we work together towards your goals. As a member of the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy (MBACP) I adhere to their code of ethical practice.

    I have had a lot of life experience some of which I would rather not have had, but which has enriched my ability to be empathic and understanding with others. However, I have run a successful business in another career for many years. I am happily married with adult children and step children. I have insight into what can trouble others and considerable success at helping others to achieve positive and lasting change.

    I believe that the quality of the relationships that people form are a key aspect of how we perceive and enjoy life. Therapy can assist each of us to improve our ability to form and deal with good and poor relationships and to understand oneself. Therefore I would hope to generate with you a trusting, confidential relationship where you feel understood and appreciated. By establishing this we can look together at what you would like to achieve from therapy.

    My counselling rooms are in easy reach of all of Southampton, Chandlers Ford, Eastleigh, Fairoak, West End, Bitterne, Shirley, Woolston, Sholing, Hedge End Netley Abbey, Totton, Netley Marsh, Woodland, Ashurst, Romsey, West Wellow, Landford, Ashfield, Cadnam, Lyndhurst, Brockenhurst, Beaulieu, North Baddesley, Rownhams, Nursling, Eling, Marchwood, Hythe, Dibden Purlieu, Holbury.

    Please ring me I would like to help : 023 80836921 or 075 0092 8478
    or click here to email

    All telephone calls and meetings are confidential